Funeral Directors  

Joseph S. Grattan - Funeral Director

Joe is a long-time resident of the North Fork, having been raised in Riverhead. After graduation from St. Isidore's Parochial School and Mercy High School there, he attended the State University of Farmingdale where he received his degree in Mortuary Science. After the completion of his residency at the DeFriest Funeral Homes, he became a New York State Licensed Funeral Director. Joe lives in Mattituck with his wife Tracey and their two children Joey and Allie. He is a member of the Riverhead Moose Club, the Peconic Warpipes, is a past chief and life-member of the Riverhead Volunteer Ambulance Corps, is a member of the Mattituck and North Fork Chambers of Commerce , the Southold Merchants Association and the National Funeral Directors Association, the New York State Funeral Directors Association and is a Past President of the Nassau-Suffolk Funeral Directors Association.

Joseph S. Grattan, Sr. - Funeral Director

A Southold native, Joe was a graduate of Southold High School and the American Academy of Funeral Service in New York City. He completed his residency at the DeFriest Funeral Homes and became licensed as a New York State Funeral Director. After his marriage to Cutchogue native, Barbara Kurczewski, he joined the Riverhead Town Police Department. After a distinguished career of almost forty years, Joe recently retired and resumed his affiliation with the funeral home owned by his son. During his career in Law Enforcement, Joe maintained his affiliation with area funeral homes and has been privileged to serve many families on both the North and South Forks. Joe and his late wife Barbara (1943-2009) who was the Riverhead Town Clerk for many years, also have a daughter, Lori, who is married to Sal Rosato. They all reside on the North Fork. Joe is a member of the Riverhead P.B.A. and S.O.A., the Suffolk County Police Conference, Police Association and Chief's Association, Loyal Order of the Moose, Polish Town Civic Association and has been a dedicated member of the Salvation Army, March of Dimes and American Heart Association for many years. Joe and Barbara are the proud grandparents of Abigal Grace Rosato, Daniel Joseph Rosato, Joseph Frank Grattan, Matthew Salvatore Rosato and Allison Rose Grattan.

David I. DeFriest - Funeral Director

Dave is a Riverhead native. Following his graduation from the Renouard Training School for Embalmers, he worked in East Elmhurst for Edward J. Devlin Funeral Homes. In 1940, the established he DeFriest Funeral Homes in Southold which eventually grew to three locations. David is a charter member of the Southold Rotary Club and a Paul Harris Fellow; a member of the Chinese, Southold and Triangle Yacht Clubs, former member of the Mattituck and Southold Chambers of Commerce and past president of the Metropolitan Funeral Director's Association; representing funeral homes in the New York City Metropolitan Area and surrounding suburbs.

David E. DeFriest - Funeral Director

Dave, Jr. is a native of Southold. After his graduation from Southold High School and discharge from the United States Navy, he attended the American Academy in New York City and became a New York State Licensed Funeral Director in 1971. Dave is a past president and member of the Southold Kiwanis Club and is also a member of the Southold Presbyterian Church and the Rotary Club of Southold. He lives in Southold with his wife, Vickie and their son, Garrett.